|Newsletter May 2012|
LOVING THE SELF
As many of my clients have been searching to help themselves overcome an array of issues, at the heart of these issues has been a lack of self- love.
Lack of self -love may have been created due to negative thoughts we have believed about our self, statements generally encountered when we were of a young and tender age from what our parents or peers have told us about ourselves in a derogatory fashion or they may have come due to traumatic experiences and so that negative belief has been set up in our minds. But these thoughts belong in the past not in our current adult life.
You may find loving yourself difficult or unnatural because you are so used to the negative or self-sabotaging thoughts that you have had all these years, like an old record player going round and round. So, you need to change your way of thinking to happy thoughts and in doing so this will spill over into all areas of your life too.
Without the nurturing of self- love you are sending out a message to the universe that you are unworthy or undeserving so what do you attract? exactly the same, however positive outcomes can happen when you send out positive thoughts as like attracts like, they resonate on the same vibration.
Once you make a positive decision to change your way of thinking all your greatest potential can be fulfilled. When you love yourself you come alive. You can accept that you are creating what is happening in your life, you can then feel you have taken control and can create the life you really want to live fulfilling your dreams and desires.
So here are 10 helpful waysto love yourself ;
1. Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you You. Just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. This does not mean that you do not learn to change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to yourself despite all your "flaws". Look in the mirror and fall in love with the reflection that is You.
"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance." Oscar Wilde
2. Eliminate Self Criticism. Do you often berate yourself over the tiniest thing? Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes? If you find that you criticize yourself often, make an effort to stop the self-criticism by replacing with a positive statement.
3. Be Kind And Positive. When you start to think kindly and positively about yourself, the love you have for yourself just grows. Make it a habit to praise yourself every day, while in the front of the mirror. Because of such thoughts, you naturally undertake empowering actions that support your development.
4. Acknowledge Your Effort. It is not always about winning or coming up tops in everything that you do. Many times, it is the effort that counts! Acknowledge that you have done your best, even if you have failed to produce tangible results.
"I CAN is 100 times more important than IQ." - unknown
5. Let Go Of Worry. Loving yourself requires you to let go of your worry. It is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying. Worry does not help in any way. It cannot, on its own, make things happen. Only wise actions can! So instead of worrying, spend time thinking about what you can do to help in the situation. If the situation is beyond your control, then make a request to the Universe/God/ Source/Angels (whatever you believe) about what you want. Next, surrender your outcome.
6. Trust Yourself. Have confidence in your abilities. Know that you have the ability to make important changes for yourself, for as long as you put your heart to it. You can also support yourself by visualizing desired outcomes.
7. Forgive Yourself. If you have made mistakes in the past that had caused you to feel less worthy, then you need to forgive yourself. All of us make mistakes; so there really is no need to beat yourself up over them. Also, if you have been carrying around baggage of emotional hurt because of a childhood trauma, learn to forgive yourself (or come and see me about it).
"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you." Lewis B. Smedes
8. Be Truthful To Yourself. Loving yourself requires you to be truthful about your own feelings. If you are happy, acknowledge the joy. If you are sad, acknowledge the sorrow. When you are truthful about your feelings, you do not try to lie to yourself or seek to bury your negative emotions, this will only raise its ugly head in a mental or physical condition some time later if you do. Instead, acknowledging what you feel provides a good guide to what your thoughts are. And as we all know, thoughts can be changed, so that healing and self-growth can take place.
9. Grow Spiritually. When you spend time growing spiritually, loving yourself becomes automatic. You become more peaceful, connected, kind, loving and compassionate. You nurture a mind that grows more beautiful by the day. You naturally love yourself in the process.
10. Make Positive Affirmations or positive self-talk Everyday. Reframe your mind, for instance, say this to yourself "I love and accept myself completely and unconditionally." "I am loving and loveable", "I accept myself just the way I am".
Read your affirmations out loud several times a day.
Here is something to ponder on...
"I am Me. In the entire world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it - I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.
Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me.
By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know - but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded.
I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay." Virginia Satir (American Psychologist and Educator, 1916-1988)
Please contact me if you would like help with ANY issues that you are finding difficult to cope with, I will be more than happy to help you along your journey...
And lastly, clients always ask me do I teach so now the answer is yes!
I will be teaching a psychic development class on Thursday evenings in Hampstead. All levels welcome from beginners to advanced, all classes are undertaken in a positive and encouraging atmosphere where students develop at their own pace.
If you are interested in any spiritual subjects then please do come along, for more details please send an email or click on
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